What's your pay-off? February 16 2014, 1 Comment

Why is it that the majority of people, regardless of the city or country they live, are not doing what they love to do? Those that pursue their dreams, life goals and passions are courageous, but are generally few and far between.

Do you know what separates the dreamers from the doers? The dreamers don’t believe in themselves, they listen to the naysayers and they hold onto fear.

Maybe it’s staying in a job you don’t like for the sake of a secure income, when really you’ve been harbouring a desire to make your hobby your job. Or perhaps you’re stuck in a loveless relationship for the sake of the kids, but to severe detriment to your health and any future happiness. There is no pay-off, but there are dire consequences.

What’s the pay-off for not being in love with yourself, staying in a situation that hinders learning and growth and being all that you can be? There is no pay-off, but it comes at a cost of truly enjoying your life, being respected and valued and finding true inner bliss, in every moment of your life.

So, why do we do this? What makes us dream instead of do? Because it’s easier to wallow and fall into a trap of self-pity and self-sabotage out of fear.

Why don’t we take action and find the happiness and fulfilment that lies within ourselves? Because it’s easy to take the path of least resistance in life. We fear being judged and criticized and we listen to the naysayers instead of ourselves.

It’s not because the naysayers have bad intentions. They just don’t understand your dreams, your life, your goals. They don’t understand that reward is worth the risk. Because they fear, they place fear onto you thinking they are protecting you from failure, when in actual fact it is holding you from the making your dreams a reality.

I’m now going to ask you, what’s your pay-off? It’s time to ask why you do what you do. Dig deep and ask, "Is this behaviour pattern of mine hindering or helping me to become a happier and healthier person"? Until you take action and responsibility for your life, and do whatever it takes, life is going to give you much more of the same.

As Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

If I ever get to meet you, I would like to say to you, "Well done" not, "Well said."

Many blessings, Luke